Transitioning From A Crib To A Big Kid Bed

We have BUNK BEDS!  Adam and Lake could not be more excited.  Alex put the bed together while we were away over the summer so when we got back from Minnesota this was officially their new room.  It used to be just Adam’s, but with his bed, rug and bookshelf gone I don’t think Lake even recognized it as his room.  Lake’s old room is now officially the baby room.  Well, it’s actually now the room that holds all the extra furniture and stuff that we haven’t quite figured out what to do with yet.  But Lake’s crib is gone, the teepee is gone, and she has never once gone in there wondering what happened to her things.  I think it was actually a nice transition for her, and when the baby comes she will never have the feeling that the baby is sleeping in HER bed or in HER room (we hope).  

So now she sleeps in a big bed, in a big new room.  It’s our first time really dealing with the challenges of a transition to a big kid bed.  When we switched Adam he was 2 1/2, and it was right before Lake was born.  At the end of my pregnancy she was breach, and we were pretty sure I would end up having a C-Section.  Since Adam was so big, I was worried I wouldn’t be able to lift him in and out of his crib during recovery, so we turned his crib into a toddler bed.  For the first couple of months he didn’t realize that he could get in and out himself, so he would call for us when he needed us or when he woke up in the morning.  He is so nice, that kid.  Lake is handling everything a little differently.  She sees that Adam gets in and out himself, so she knew right away that it was an option to do as she pleases.  For the first few nights it wasn’t so bad, we went in a couple times to help her back in bed, and after 15 or 20 minutes she was asleep.  Now it is a 30-45 minute fight for every nap and every bedtime.  We’ve tried waiting until she is super tired, we’ve tried putting her down super early (which seems to be the lesser of the two evils).  We’ve tried rewards, we’ve tried discipline.  We’ve tried sitting in there with her to make her feel comfortable, we’ve tried shouting that it’s bedtime until she lays down and stays in bed (I know, not my proudest moments).  We’ve tried songs, we’ve tried books.  It’s been about a month and it’s definitely starting to get exhausting!  Once she is in bed asleep we don’t see her until morning.  But she is so stubborn at bed time, and is just choosing to fight us.   It’s always, “I need to go peepee again, I need more water, I need daddy, I need another booboo (blanket).”  One day when I was painting their room I tried to have her nap in her pack n play in another room, and she ended up climbing out.  I know if I tried to put her back in a crib she would do the same thing, so at this point that’s not an option.  I think this is a phase of fighting bedtime more than an issue of switching to a big kid bed, it just happens to be happening at the same time.  Which is not awesome for us!  So we continue to fight the fight.  And tell ourselves that it’s just a phase and pretty soon she will go to bed the minute we say it’s bedtime.  Until then any suggestions are welcome!  
On a more fun note note this empty room has been a blast to work on, especially with this awesome Oeuf bunk bed as its centerpiece.  With a fresh coat of white paint (my new favorite is Benjamin Moore White Opulance) we are ready to fill this space with lots of love and personality!  Follow along this week here and on Instagram as we add more pieces to the room!  

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